This past few days I somehow felt the desire and calling to write about this. Hope it speaks to some of you.
Here’s a scenario just to give you an idea of what could or would happen if you dont think without talking.
You are having lunch with Person A and you notice that
something isn’t too right. Then you realize that Person A is constantly taunted
by Person B who happens to be a close friend. On that particular day, you find
unpleasant postings by Person B on Person As social networking site and this
upsets Person A. Person A is not the kind who likes to argue and doesnt really find situations like this amusing. This form of confrontation may not be face to face or physical
but it still affects Person A deeply. Folks, whether its you typing behind a
keyboard or giving a one off confrontation, there isnt really a difference because there is bound to be damage. Here are 5 reasons you should tame
that tongue!
#1 You gonna hurt someone pretty bad
#1 You gonna hurt someone pretty bad
Condescending words that are harsh in nature can ultimately
hurt people. This is the most obvious and most severe reason I can possibly
state. Your words whether they are
intentional or not, can be likened to a mass of arrows launched from the hands
of a skilled bowman piercing straight into the innocent heart of its prey,
killing it instantly. But of course, no victim of harsh words will be dead
instantly, it’s just that with every
harsh word hurled, you create a tiny little scar and we all know that hundreds
of tiny little scars make for one massive wound.
#2 You can’t take back your words even if you are sorry
#2 You can’t take back your words even if you are sorry
You may feel bad afterwards, you may apologise, your apology
might be accepted, people may forgive you BUT no one ever forgets. What you’ve done may be just too permanent of
a scar to just wipe away or push it aside. You see here is the logic, you
cannot allow your tongue and lips to speak as it wishes and then expect anyone
and everyone to just brush it aside like nothing ever happened in the first
place. As earlier mentioned you have one shot with that arrow and bow in your
hands, once you shoot that arrow, it’s bound to hit and wound someone.
#3 Friends, you would not want to lose them
Your constant lashing of the lip would be seen as a
liability to some of your peers. People generally want to keep away from
anything that induces conflict and if you happen to be the splinter to the fire
then go figure. The people that you surround yourself with may look normal or seem
normal when you are around but they are definitely trying their best to keep
away. Friends come and go, that’s a fact but you will definitely lose the old
friends sooner and keep away the potential partners if your tongue is on the
loose. New friends might appear but they
will be as quick to disappear once your colours start showing.
#4 They only reveal your insecurities
#4 They only reveal your insecurities
Why this? Well, your constant need to build barriers, to
talk without thinking, to allow unnecessary comebacks to leave that mouth definitely
shows that you are insecure with who you are. It shows that you are not sure of
who you are, you are uncomfortable with your identity and that you feel that
you don’t really fit in with the atmosphere around you. Thus, it creates a need
within you to fight back, to perhaps claim back what you presume to have lost.
The more you allow your tongue to do the talking, the more you convince the
entire world that you are not who you say you are.
#5 This isn’t who God has created you to be
This last one might seem inapplicable or void to some people
but I still feel the need to address this final point. Wear your hijab, quote as
many bible verses you want or get an orange robe and mediate in the temples. Be religious, speak religiously, dress even
more religiously but if you don’t tame that tongue in the first place, I assure
that there is no change in you. You are still the same old person who clearly
has issues to deal with. Look, God did not just give you a brain for no
reason. Think before you talk.
That’s just my two cents worth. I hope this gave some of y'all something to think about.
Adios till the next post.
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